When A Man Says He's Not Ready for a Relationship-Yet...

     So, so, sooo many women have encountered the man of their dreams, he's attractive, he's ambitious, he's successful, he's single, and the chemistry is there until he says the fated words.....I LIKE YOU BUT I'M JUST NOT READY FOR A RELATIONSHIP -cue dramatic music.

The question is  what does that really mean and what should you do?


LADIES SAY......

Pretty much when a guy says this he means "let me see if I can first find something better than you and if I don't then we can be in a relationship."  From there on a woman needs to evaluate what she is looking for, if she likes him then she should hang out with him but not do any type of relationship behavior such as have sex, or let him take up too much of her time.  Ultimately if she wants more she should just really leave him alone. 










FELLAS SAY.........
Just because a man says that he is not ready for a serious relationship
doesn't mean that he doesn't like you, it just means that he is not 
willing to commit.  There could be several reasons why he is not  willing to commit.
One reason could be that he is more interested in his career and to fellas relationships are taxing and take up a lot of your time.  
Another could be that he is just doesn't want to be hurt.  In closing he may want you to be there just not as a serious relationship.  Ultimately the decision is up to you, do you want to wait for him or just move on.




Our she said advice comes from Lude Pierre she can be reached at lpierre03@gmail.com.  Our he said comes from Justin Moffatt who can be reached at 
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YC- The Cynic

So one thing that I love about being a Socialite is that it forces one to learn a little about everything that is going on on the social set. So I was checking my FB and got a message from this artists YC-the cynic with a link to his album. I listened to and fell in love. It reminds me of old school rap, watching fine basketball players hoop on the neighborhood court. Check him out we all need a break from the autotuned pop rap. This one is called State Id.

01 State I.D..mp3

Ride With NELL

Nell Bio Summary:

The streets continue to talk; Nell is bursting onto the music scene with a growing population of fans. Using his mainstream sound and his smooth yet energetic delivery, every Nell song is a hit record. Without a Major Label backing his music, Nell’s songs such as “Step It Out” and “Do Ya Thang” have already received commercial radio airplay.

Nell’s hometown is none other than Norfolk, VA (Norview to narrow it down) where he has been for the last year working on his first full studio project with Super-Producer Nottz. He has also performed countless times at area night clubs and other Hip Hop concerts in the area and continues to draw a crowd.

From the Studio to the stage Nell delivers entertainment at its best, making music that fans love to hear. Even the most skeptic critics with catch themselves bobbing their heads to the raw beats and repeating the energetic hooks that Nell creates on hit song after hit song. Nell is not taking on the industry… the industry will have to take on Nell!

Check Nell Out
http://twitter.com/ridewitnell
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Vegas Night Club

Vegas Night Club


So the Urban Socialite checked out Vegas Night Club last night.  Vegas night club is a brand new spot.


Location:  Vegas night club is located in Newport News all the way down Warwick Blvd.  damn near in Williamsburg!
Pros: Last night was Thursday ladies night and ladies get in free.  Well drinks are 1 buck before 9!

Cons: Unfortunately it was a very slow night (I am not sure if it is always like this on Thursdays or not)  so there weren't very many people in there.

The Dj was Dj Dre.  The music was your typical top 40 mixed in with a little old school which made sense because the crowd was def for the 30+ grown and sexy.

All in all I would say it was aight.  The bartenders were very welcoming.  I am just not sure if Thursday nights are the best nights to go on.  This club is cool if you want to get cheap drinks and don't want to be bothered wit people touching your butt all night long.